If somebody scares you in sex work, you do not ever, ever have to see them again. That is the rule.
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I had a blast reading from Thriving at the Sexy Grammarian's Folsom Street Salon!
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People say all the time that hard work is the secret to success at camming, but what does that actually mean? It starts with maintaining good boundaries, because most clients are trying to haggle three things: time, money, and what you’re willing to do.
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I picked Hillbilly Elegy up because I was feeling the need to take a break from sex work writings, but oddly enough, I found myself feeling a deep resonance with many first-person sex work stories.
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At home tonight watching the Black Lives Matter protests, heartsick over the pointless, tragic loss of more life. All day I’ve been carrying the sight of Diamond Reynolds’s composure watching her man bleed out beside her. Thinking of the times I’ve lost my shit with cops, and thinking how very likely it is if I had pulled that crap while black I’d be dead.
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In the 80’s and 90’s Prince was the soundtrack to my life as a sexual adventurer. His funky grooves were an itch coursing through my veins that made me want to be a stripper, a professional sadist, a porn star. To dress like a slut, to work my body like a whore.
Read MoreAltcoin is tempting -- I totally get it, but my advice: Steer clear.
Read MoreSex work is hard, and it takes a wide range of support to excel at it. If you’re dabbling to pick up a few bucks, perhaps all of this isn’t for you. But if you want to do better than survive — make good money and walk away with something worthwhile — treat yourself like a business. Successful people don’t do things half-assed hoping to strike it rich. They plan. They save. They invest.
Read MoreEvery once in a rare while, I’d encounter one of the dark ones, the sadists, the sociopaths, the ones I call the bastards.
Read MoreThese clients are worshipful. Like hunters, they’re seekers. However, like maintenance clients, once they find what they’re looking for, they can be fiercely loyal. What sets these clients apart is they seek peak erotic experiences, and they need emotional connection, too.
Read MoreHunters, as the name suggests, have an edge. They’re searching for something ever elusive, perhaps something they’ve been looking for their whole lives, but never found. They itch for variety.
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