Praise for Thriving
"I LOVE THIS BOOK SO MUCH!!
Lola Davina brings the insight, advice and compassion that only a centered, wise, experienced sex work veteran can cultivate: her insider knowledge makes this book both a powerful ally to any sex worker who wants a better life, and also a resource to help civilians lose those preconceived notions of what the work is (and can be) really all about. Fierce, smart, pragmatic and loving. I can’t recommend it highly enough." —Carol Queen, PhD Author, founding director of the Center for Sex & Culture, and 99% retired sex worker
"CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH HOW DEADLY AMAZING THIS BOOK IS.
I laughed, I cried, I said 'Aha' and 'Oh good god, I'm not the only one!' I highly recommend it to all sex workers." —Miss Kate The Goddess
"I have so many highlighted passages, and as someone who’s been in the Biz for a long time, it hits home on so many levels.
Love, love, LOVE!!!
"I want every sex worker I know to READ THIS BOOK."
"A huge thank you for touching my life.
The more people empowered by your book , the better. Touching and relevant across continents and generations. Empowered intelligent workers leading the sisterhood by example is a great gift . After 30 years in the industry, I thought I'd read all there was to read. But your book is just special. I was touched to tears by the section of letting go of anger.
YEP- I really, REALLY LOVED IT!!"
"I cannot recommend that you follow Lola Davina and read her book highly enough. Self-care must be your top priority in this industry. EVERYTHING THIS AMAZING WOMAN HAS TO SAY IS SO RELEVANT, FROM THE COMPLETE BEGINNER TO THE OVER-QUALIFIED!" —Mistress Julia
"THANK YOU, LOLA!!
This book sets a new standard of understanding for both those inside and outside the sex working industries. It’s going to mean the world to many, many sex workers and the people who support and love them. Brava!!"
"I read your book from cover to cover yesterday. FUCKING THANK YOU! You've joined the ranks of the women I'd like to be like someday!" —Amie Petite
"LOLA DAVINA'S BOOK NAILS IT FOR NON-SEX WORKERS TOO.
It is heart-felt, thought-provoking, and revelatory. As a member of the LGBTQ community, Ms. Davina taught me a lot about the stigma, shame, etc. I carry. Thank you, Ms. Davina, for your amazing work and effort. It has helped me understand myself and others more." —Nunya
"LOLA, YOU ARE AMAZING!!!!!
Just got “Thriving in Sex Work” today and have been face-planted in it ever since-- I've never met you, but I wanna!" —Ernestine Pasterello
"THIS SHOULD BE THE BIBLE FOR ALL SEX WORKERS.
Helped me put a lot of thoughts into perspective. Thank you so much!"
"Your book is wonderful, a gem for me when I was so burnt out. Every sex worker should read it.
IT WAS WONDERFUL TO KNOW I'M NOT ALONE!"
"THIS BOOK BLEW ME AWAY!
The experienced author eloquently took the words out of my mouth. I can hear her voice in her writing, very comforting and reassuring and REAL. I was expecting it to be rather sassy, but it was so loving, compassionate, meaningful, deep layers.... Just like a book specializing in sex and disabilities, this book specializes in self-care for sex workers, but it can easily be applied to larger groups of people who seek balance, health and happiness. Recommending as much as I can!" —Kendra Holliday
"I absolutely loved it… HONEST, UNJUDGMENTAL, AND INSPIRING!
I love how it was written for folks in the business, and covered so many aspects of the industry. The most relatable sex work book I've read yet!"
I read this book in less than two days because I could NOT put it down! There is a wealth of guidance and information in it that is priceless.
YOU WILL NOT BE DISAPPOINTED!
—Felon von Feuer
"A portable coach for the PRICE OF A TAKEOUT LUNCH."
"IT'S GOING TO HELP A LOT OF PEOPLE.
Highly recommended. Insightful and warm and practical and inclusive." —Natalie Blackwood
"Your brilliant book is the most insightful and helpful book on sex work I have read, after almost two decades off-and-on [in the biz.]
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR WRITING IT!"
Puts a lot in perspective and [helps to] build up my confidence.
I feel affirmed and included in a way THAT'S PRECIOUS AND BEAUTIFUL.
Thank you. —V.W.
"Thriving needs to be ready by all sex workers out there— this book is REAL because Lola has REAL knowledge, it is REAL advice.
—Mistress Juicy Jules
"If you don't own it yet, what are you waiting for?! Every sex worker needs this handbook within arms reach always.
For real. DO IT."
" I'm reading cover to cover. Some doesn't apply to me anymore as I mostly only do phone sex, but damn, you do give good advice! As someone who works from home and sometimes feels isolated, your book is reminding me that I'm not all alone.
I CLOSED THE BOOK FEELING LOVED."
"Seriously, woman-- I feel like you wrote this book for me...
It's not just a book, but a LIFESAVER!"
"Such a good book--I read it from front to back.
I COULDN'T PUT IT DOWN!"
"Reading Thriving in Sex Work again because I need a fire under my ass for motivation, and this is perfect.
"I AM BLOWN AWAY.
Interesting from the very first words, beautifully well written with your personal experiences and so well organized. THIS SHOULD BE A MUST READ FOR ALL ETHICAL CLIENTS!"
You need this book. PERIOD."
"Your book is GIVING ME LIFE!"
"THIS IS SUCH A WONDERFUL BOOK.
Thank you for the hard work, energy and goodness you put into it."
"REALLY GREAT. VERY POSITIVE WITHOUT SUGAR-COATING THINGS.
Lots of real sex work advice from someone who lived it." —Rikochan!
"This book is SERIOUSLY SO GOOD!
Lola Davina is the ho mama so many of us have not had!"
— Nikki Silver
"There's so many gems in there! It's such a fabulous book... Lola, you say EVERYTHING I've always thought. The practical advice is so on point. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR WRITING THIS.
You are a LIVING BREATHING BLESSING!"
"Oh Lola! Your book is amazing!
I truly felt good reading what you wrote. Your advice is good for those of us in the sex industry, but also for all of us humans with all our quirks and struggles. THANK YOU!!" — K.J.
Signed up for a women's self-defense class on your advice.
You should definitely read this book if you're a sex worker!
"Your book is my Bible right now. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR WRITING IT."
"Lola, you've inspired me to continue reading, growing & KILLING IT AS A SEX WORKER."
"BEST READ EVER & COMPLETELY HELPFUL!!
This book was amazing!! EXTREMELY helpful, incredibly informative, and really changed the course of my business. Thanks, Lola, for being open and honest about your life, and sharing your knowledge and advice."
"Your book helped me so much. I'VE SEEN THE LIGHT!"
"A must read!"
"I DEVOURED THIS BOOK.
You can feel the author's kindness throughout, and I continued to read even the parts that didn't pertain to me because of that caring attention. It's funny that when you sell companionship for a living it can be a lonely life, but that is the truth of it. This book is like having an older sister who's got their sh** together so their advice means alot.
There is something about the way Lola normalizes this job - one that is largely misunderstood - that feels real. Being a sole proprietor is hard, no matter what service you are selling. Every job has industry specific challenges. Acknowledging that sexwork isn't easy money and is emotional not just physcial labor is incredibly validating. And that frankness... somehow it helps me "get over myself" when I get too "woe is me" to pick up the phone.
Lola is clearly the real deal, not just a 'tourist' who escorts for a year then writes a book to be shocking and edgy. This book feels like it's written by someone who's spent real time as a provider and came out the other end sane and happy (and presumably financially sound). I'm looking forward to the physical book so I don't have to read it on my phone.
I highly recommend this book to women who have been escorting as their main occupation for several years, but I REALLY WISH I HAD ACCESS TO IT IN THE BEGINNING OF MY CAREER!"
—Sophie Christina, 20-year veteran
"THIS WOMAN IS TRULY INSPIRATIONAL.
Buy her book-- it's fantastic, and so knowledgeable." —Miss Bella
"You inspired me to come out of hiding. #SexWorkerPride"
"Your tips about money, legal stuff, and cultivating a good client base have been especially helpful to me, and your generally positive attitude.
"Thank you, Lola!"
"THIS BOOK IS OUTSTANDING. Even if you're a fin dom who doesn't see your work as sex work, all of the safety and self-care info is on point.
"My new Bible."
"I LOVE IT!!!!!!! SUCH GOOD ADVICE!!!"
"Lola, I read your book yesterday cover to cover. FUCKING THANK YOU! You've joined the ranks of the women I'd like to be like someday!" —Amie Petite
"I CAN RELATE TO YOUR EXPERIENCE ON SO MANY LEVELS...
...and wish I had a website like this one you've created when I was just starting out because I would definitely do things differently and practice more self care! I truly believe that you have a gift to share and that your words and wisdom will help so many others out there in the field of sex work." —M.H.
"A MUST-HAVE SELF-CARE BOOK.
It applies to everyone. If you been looking for a non-fluffy self-help book, THIS IS THE BOOK TO BUY!"
—Angelique Luna, Host of "Living a Sex Positive Life" Podcast