Thriving in Sex Work Workbook Sample: Matrix Phrases

From the upcoming "Thriving in Sex Work Workbook": All day, every day on the job, we’re bombarded with messages telling us “This is how the sex industry is.” A major theme of this workbook is challenging your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. This requires special attention to telling them apart. All too often, we have a tendency to treat these things as if they’re all the same. They are not.

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23 Things I Wish I'd Known: #23: Sex Workers Need Love, Too!

When I was working, I could never get enough love. Or maybe it would be better to say I didn’t have the ability to live in love. It was like a medical condition where you’re getting plenty of Vitamin C in your diet, but your body can’t absorb it, so your teeth fall out due to scurvy. I would characterize that time, even in the midst of all my relative good fortune, as feeling starved for love.

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23 Things I Wish I'd Known: #18: Loneliness, Boredom, and Isolation Are Choices

One of the most consistent complaints I see all the time throughout the sex industry is that people feel like they don’t have enough time, money, or energy for outside interests. It’s one of those paradoxes about the job—even though often the hours are flexible, and there can be good money in it, why does it seem like there’s never anything left over for family, friends, and fun?

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