More Lola Goodness
Podcasts, publications, and appearances... oh my!
Interview with The Sexy Grammarian
August 12, 2017
Sexy G writes: "As a retired-and-out sex worker, Thriving in Sex Work: Heartfelt Advice for Staying Sane in the Sex Industry connects to straight to my heart. I’m so proud to introduce this valuable and vital resource to you. In this interview, Lola told me how she writes and what’s coming next. And her answer to my standard sexy writer interview question will blow you away."
Article for YNOT.cam: Wasting Time Scoping out the Competition online
August 1, 2017
In the modern age, the internet provides endless opportunities for us to follow other people’s public lives in ways that can make us feel like we don’t measure up. There’s even a fancy new term for it: Obsessive Comparison Syndrome. OCS is “a compulsion to compare oneself with others in a way that produces anxiety and depression.”
Long before the digital age, people made themselves sick by comparing themselves to others. The phenomenon is quite painful and can be exacerbated by online life. Furthermore, the urge can be particularly seductive — and destructive — for sex workers, including cam models.
Article for YNOT.cam: The Emotional Side of Money
July 22, 2017
While plenty of books and articles offer step-by-step advice about how to manage finances, most of us aren’t taught to examine how money (or the lack of it) makes us feel. The result is many of us have money blind spots, which can result in unrealistic expectations, magical thinking and bad decision-making. Sex and money are both emotionally charged, so as sex workers, we need to be doubly careful to assess our finances realistically.
Sex Work BB Podcast
July 3, 2017
I've been doing a lot of press lately with civilians to promote Thriving, but it was especially fun to speak with Kyra and Shaye, two fabulous cam gals of Sex Work BB Podcast. Their mission is to promote and support other cam artists-- they walk the walk as well as talk the talk. I'd happily hang with them any day of the week!
Real Feminist Stories Podcast
June 30, 2017
Cameron Airen of Real Feminist Stories is funny, witty, and smart-- my kinda woman! We have a terrific time discussing the intersection of feminism and sex work, along with shame, self-care, and emotional labor. If you're already a Cam fan, you'll learn more about her. If you're not, you'll find out why she's my new crush.
Article for YNOT.cam: Marketing Mindfully
June 12, 2017
You don’t need me to tell you advertising in the cam space is congested, contested, and confusing. But decisions we make today have potential repercussions—to our brand, our reputations, our sense of self—for years to come. So the stakes are high. This isn’t just our livelihoods we’re talking about—it’s our lives.
living a Sex Positive Life Podcast
May 10, 2017
I had a wonderful time talking for a full hour with sex-positive teachers Angelique and John Luna. We discussed intimacy, spirituality, the future of sex work, and, of course, my upcoming book, Thriving in Sex Work. They were bubbly and gracious hosts, and made me feel like a real rockstar-- check us out!
Article for YNOTcam: Dear Lola: Is Camming Sex work?
April 20, 2017
It depends on whom you ask, and the answer is a bit complicated.
Article for Ynotcam: Dear Lola: Friends IRL... Or NOt?
March 15, 2017
Dear Lola: Last month, I attended an industry conference. I was excited to go, because I’d only known two other cammers IRL. While I was there, I met another cam girl who only lives about a half hour away from me, and we hit it off right away. We had drinks one night and hung out the whole next day together. But I’ve texted her a bunch of times since I’ve been home, and she’s never texted me back. I really thought we were going to be friends! What did I do wrong?
Turning Pro: Bawdy Storytelling Podcast
February 8, 2017
I had no idea when I was asked to tell my story of my first time as a call girl at Dixie De La Tour's smashing Bawdy Storytelling evening that I'd end up on iTunes! But if you'd like to hear it, I'm part of Episode #17, Turning Pro. I didn't fall down, I didn't barf, and the audience really seemed to enjoy it.
Girl Boner Radio Podcast with August McLaughlin
February 2, 2017
I chatted for 20 the utterly charming August McLaughlin of the Girl Boner Podcast. She asked me all about Thriving-- so much of her work revolves around self-care and sexuality, so she asked fantastic questions. Episode: Sex Work & Self Care: Erotic Careers Can Be Rewarding.
This Damn World Podcast
February 1, 2017
I went to the SOMA studio of This Damn World and got to hang out with Matt and Dom and Aya for an hour, which was quite the goddam blast... They are a funny, salty crew, and they made me feel right at home. We talked about the politics of the week, and then got down to business to ask me all about everything I've every thought about sex work. Episode: Her Name Was Lola: Self Care in Sex Work.
Article for YNOYcam: Getting Motivated
January 30, 2017
Getting to create your own work schedule is great... in theory.
But how do you motivate yourself on those days when the last thing you want to do is get on cam? A bad attitude is bad for business. Here’s some advice on what to do when you just aren’t feeling it.
Podcast with Dyann of The Body House
January 18, 2017
A 40-minute interview with Dyann of The Body House, a hands-only erotic masseuse who works tirelessly to educate clients on how to better treat service providers. We had a far-ranging, terrific discussion about empathy, safety, and how important a president can be in modeling healthy masculinity.
Article for YNOTcam: Managing Harassment
February 28, 2017
Jerks happen-- we can’t just ignore them and hope they go away. We have to be proactive. I propose a three-step plan to keep the bastards from getting you down.
Article for YNOTCAM: New Year's Resolutions
January 2, 2017
Now is the time for making New Year’s resolutions. Here’s what I want for you in the coming year: more time, more money and more energy. So often it seems that to have more of one, we end up with less of the others. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are some tips for a fabulous 2017.
Announcement: I'm YNOTCAm's new Health & Wellness Columnist!
October 28, 2016
I'm tremendously honored to be asked to be a regular contributor to YNOTcam.com, writing about health and wellness for cammers! Health, balance, and sanity in sex work is my passion, and I look forward to sharing ways to achieve work/life balance.