My name is Lola Davina.
I worked in the sex industry over a fifteen-year period, as a stripper, dominatrix, porn actor, and escort.
I wrote Thriving in Sex Work: Heartfelt Advice for Staying Sane in the Sex Industry and the Thriving in Sex Work Workbook to offer the self-care advice I wished I'd had back when I was working to cope with all the ways the sex industry made me feel: good, bad, beautiful, ugly, stupid, smart, rich, poor, exposed, invisible, fabulous, and powerless. This book is written for working practitioners, to take care of yourself so that your body is healthy, your mind is clear, and you’re excited about your next sex work adventures.
About Thriving in Sex Work
A self-help book for sex workers
Sex work is “easy money?” Hardly. The adult industry is riddled with pitfalls and dangers. Erotic labor is often emotionally demanding, draining, and complex. It can be hard to know who to turn to for advice on keeping yourself safe and sane. Thriving provides the life skills you need to prosper, including:
Cultivating friendships, community, and romance
Debunking sex industry myths such as you have to be flawless, or clients hate to hear “no”
Avoiding trigger states, like loneliness, fatigue, boredom, anxiety and depression, that lead to bad decision-making and burnout
Surviving bad calls, shifts, and shoots — and so much more…
Thriving in sex work means having a healthy body, mind, heart, and bank account. No matter your job title or gender, whether you’re independent or work for someone else, if you want to succeed in sex work, this book is for you. Read selected exerpts of Thriving in Sex Work here.
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I've spent more than 25 years in and around the sex industry, working as a stripper, dominatrix, porn actress, and escort over a fifteen-year period. I earned an M.A. in Human Sexuality and an M.S. in Nonprofit Fundraising, and write a self-care and wellness column for YNOTcam.com.
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