Those steady, low-level voices of self loathing are what I call “hate radio," filling me with a constant low-grade sadness. And while I know I experienced those voices long before I ever became a sex worker, there were times that I used that fact as an excuse to whip myself even harder.
Read MoreThere’s more to money than just making it. When I first started stripping, making [gasp] $20 an hour I thought I would never be poor again. And when I started escorting, I thought charging $200/hour would be the solution to all of life’s problems. Life quickly taught me otherwise.
Read MoreHurt people hurt people. Ostensibly the sex industry is all about pleasure, but as it turns out, so many people are in pain.
Read MoreThe folks who get you through the hard times and celebrate your triumphs are priceless. Everyone else is just a life lesson.
Read MoreIt’s okay to let go of people who aren’t really your friends. This was a surprisingly difficult lesson. Holding onto people too long caused me a lot of pain and drama.
Read MoreIf I have one regret from my decade as a 20-something, it's that I didn’t invest back when my whole life was stretched out in front of me. I didn’t start saving until I was in my thirties, and even then, I needed a lot of handholding. The biggest reason for this? I was afraid that as a sex worker, I couldn’t ask for help. That does not have to be you.
Read MoreI never encountered anyone who aged out of the sex industry. I saw people quit for all kinds of reasons, but nobody I ever met celebrated some black magic birthday and *poof* their phones stopped ringing.
Read MoreFocus on you. After all, your profile is the only one you have any control over, and the only one that will bring you any business. Obsessing over what others do distorts your values and intentions.
Read MoreWhen you’re forty, nobody is going to give two shits that you did sex work in your teens or twenties. Or your thirties. Or at all, ever. By the time you’re middle-aged, everyone has their story — they’ve struggled with addiction, they’ve gone bankrupt, they’ve had an abortion or been to jail or have a child who doesn’t speak to them...
Read MoreYou are sexy as fuck, just as you are. Stop obsessing with some imaginary version of yourself. Instead, love what you’ve got.
Read MoreLet me tell you what sex work money means, if no one has ever told you.
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