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Today's sample is on the subject of sadness.
Read MoreThe companion workbook to Thriving in Sex Work is filled with exercises, budgets, self-care guides, and business plans to keep your mind, body, and business thriving. Available on Amazon in paperback.
This week's taste is on boundaries in sex work-- critical to your health and emotional wellbeing.
Read MoreWhen I was working, I could never get enough love. Or maybe it would be better to say I didn’t have the ability to live in love. It was like a medical condition where you’re getting plenty of Vitamin C in your diet, but your body can’t absorb it, so your teeth fall out due to scurvy. I would characterize that time, even in the midst of all my relative good fortune, as feeling starved for love.
Read MoreI used to hammer away at myself when I worked-- the slightest little mix-up or error, and I would beat myself up mercilessly for days.
Read MoreOne of the most consistent complaints I see all the time throughout the sex industry is that people feel like they don’t have enough time, money, or energy for outside interests. It’s one of those paradoxes about the job—even though often the hours are flexible, and there can be good money in it, why does it seem like there’s never anything left over for family, friends, and fun?
Read MoreYou can fire any client. For any reason. At any time. And not feel bad about it afterwards.
Read MoreThose steady, low-level voices of self loathing are what I call “hate radio," filling me with a constant low-grade sadness. And while I know I experienced those voices long before I ever became a sex worker, there were times that I used that fact as an excuse to whip myself even harder.
Read MoreHurt people hurt people. Ostensibly the sex industry is all about pleasure, but as it turns out, so many people are in pain.
Read MoreIn the modern age, the internet provides endless opportunities for us to follow other people’s public lives in ways that can make us feel like we don’t measure up. There’s even a fancy new term for it: Obsessive Comparison Syndrome. OCS is “a compulsion to compare oneself with others in a way that produces anxiety and depression.”
Read MoreRage is a drug. Anger can act as a shield or an engine, and can be tremendously motivating. It also can be incredibly self-destructive.
Read MoreI never encountered anyone who aged out of the sex industry. I saw people quit for all kinds of reasons, but nobody I ever met celebrated some black magic birthday and *poof* their phones stopped ringing.
Read MoreFocus on you. After all, your profile is the only one you have any control over, and the only one that will bring you any business. Obsessing over what others do distorts your values and intentions.
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