Article for YNOTcam.com: "I Don't Want to Meet Him & I Don't Want to Lose Him"

Dear Lola,

One of my best fans keeps pressuring me to do things I don’t want to do, including meet IRL. I’m not going to, no matter what, because that’s a promise I made to my mom and my sister when I told them I was camming. (And I really don’t want to, anyway!) But he only lives two hours away, and he keeps wanting me to tell him about my real life. I’m worried he’s going to try and find me… I know I make him sound kind of terrible, but he really is a nice guy and tips me all the time. I don’t want to lose him as a fan!

Sincerely,
Tempted/Not Tempted

Ask Lola, Advice, YNOTcamLola DavinaOctober 7, 2017camming, sexworkiswork, maintaining boundariesComment

New Article for YNOTcam: When Should I Quit Camming?

Dear Lola,

I’ve been camming for almost three years now and done well at it, but I know I can’t keep doing it forever. I keep thinking I need to make a change, but the thought makes me nervous. How do I know when it’s time to quit?

Ask Lola, Life After The Life, YNOTcamLola DavinaSeptember 7, 2017sexwork, lifeafterthelifeComment

New Article for YNOTcam: Ask Lola: Wasting Time, Preoccupied

In the modern age, the internet provides endless opportunities for us to follow other people’s public lives in ways that can make us feel like we don’t measure up. There’s even a fancy new term for it: Obsessive Comparison Syndrome. OCS is “a compulsion to compare oneself with others in a way that produces anxiety and depression.”

Ask Lola, YNOTcam, Self CareLola DavinaAugust 1, 2017camming, timemanagement, Self CareComment

New Article for YNOTcam: Friends IRL... Or Not?

Sometimes you think that fellow cammer is going to be your BFF, but things don't work out like you hoped.

Ask Lola, YNOTcamLola DavinaMarch 15, 2017family&friends, camming, immyownbestfriend Comment

Hey Lola! You should write a self-help book for clients.

The whole world ogles sex workers; sex workers’ attention is glued to their clients; clients take everything in, revealing nothing. It’s about time clients step out into the light, take full responsibility for themselves, and write their own damned books.

Clients, Ask LolaLola DavinaJanuary 12, 2017whatdoclientswant, writeyourowndamnedbookComment

Response to Madame Murphy

Dear Madame Murphy-- Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. Unfortunately, it got lost somehow, so I'm responding to you in a blog posting.

Ask Lola, Progress ReportLola DavinaJanuary 3, 2017thrivinginsexwork, selfpublishing Comments

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